Someone recently brought to my attention how confused they were with different expectations of friendships and Etiquette. I have to say I am equally confused.
If you are in close proximity to a person (as in neighbor whom you see daily/weekly) and are also on Social media with said person, yet they do not speak or exhibit basic pleasantries or manners with you in “real life” or “social media world” should you keep them on your misc. social networks? I suppose there are several different angles you can look at it.
1. there are some of us who get a kick out of seeing the “Quantity” of people we are tied to on our different Social Media outlets whether we ever engage in conversation with them in “real world” or “internet land”.
2. there are some of us who still want to see what “they” are up to even if “they” don’t seem to give a rats-ear about us.
3. Then there are those of us who don’t understand why we should be at all linked to a person who can’t show basic social graces or niceties either in person or “internet land”. The “quality” over the “quantity” view.
I would rather have 1 Godiva Chocolate than a box of Imitation Chocolate. But that’s just me. (Not that there isn’t a place in this world for imitation chocolate…) I want to interact with people who attempt the basic social graces. “Hi! How have you been?” Or “I’m so sorry to hear about your…” I have people on my Facebook that I haven’t spoken to IRL in YEARS! But periodically we will comment or reply to this or that post, click “Like” to this or that. And that is enough for me. These same people I feel I could pull up in a chat box and ask a random question or start a random conversation and feel like we have never missed a beat.
I hope this helps “You know who” and maybe a few others of you out there. If someone who isn’t friendly to you IRL or Facebook-land gets their hackles raised over being “unfriended” well, what can I say?
I’m a huge proponent of surrounding ones self with positive, fun, and uplifting people. I also believe you need to be positive, fun, and always try to uplift others.
There is my Adderall musings of the day June 29, 2014
Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is. ~Jim Morrison
Friends and good manners will carry you where money won’t go. ~Margaret Walker
Friends… they cherish one another’s hopes. They are kind to one another’s dreams. ~Henry David Thoreau